“That men do not learn very much from the lessons of history is the most important of all the lessons that history has to teach. – Aldous Huxley
I still do not know the ending. I am somewhere in the middle of this section of the story. I do know it is the end of this business as I know it; that is for certain. It is the how and what that are the two biggest mysteries at this point in time. As much as I would like to just have it be over, there is always a process, the timing of which I have no control over. That is one of the many lessons I have learned while operating this business.
While I wait and jump through all the necessary hoops with three interested parties I feel it is time to start looking at the lessons and identifying the skills, traits, principles, etc that I can carry forward in my other current ventures and those of the future. Because one other thing I do know, is there will definitely be other doors, even if I have to knock them down. I am a serial entrepreneur and I am pretty sure that cannot be taken away. It would be like taking an arm or a leg.
What can I learn from the history of myself and other business owners like myself? Too much to list here, but let me focus on the process and timing of things. There have been many occasions in my life , personal and professional, that I have failed to learn from my mistakes in a timely manner. Further, there have been times where I have refused or denied the fact that I could even learn from any such mistake at all.
Why? Because the hardest lesson for me was to take my ego out of the equation. I didn’t want to look ignorant, stupid, inexperienced, etc. I thought admitting to my mistakes, bad decisions, and poor management was a sign of weakness and weakness that doesn’t fly in business, right? Not until years into my entrepreneurial career did I realize that all those “mistakes” and “failures” were really the key to becoming better and better. They were the treasure trove of knowledge that would build a better business. All I had to do was accept responsibility, opening me up to learn from them.
That did happen once I learned that the most “successful” people all failed just like I did. Most of them on a much grander scale too. This opened me up to do a deep dive to rediscover the mistakes and learn from them so I could move forward better and stronger.
Jumping back, one very important lesson is that everything and everyone has a process. And further, I do not control it. The processes involve timing. One of the hardest and most frustrating lessons to learn is that I do not control anyone’s timing. Life and business does not happen on Kevin’s time as much as I want it to. That leads to utter disappointment or acceptance; Accepting that I have no control over anything but my own attitude and perception. And, I cannot create or control time. It is the most valuable resource and all I can do is work to manage my own time to be of maximum effectiveness.
That is one of the most important lessons because in my experience it has been the root of so many other less than ideal situations and experiences that could have been prevented had I just practiced a little patience and acceptance. The more expectations I placed on employees, vendors, competitors, etc the more frustration, anger, resentment, and fear I experienced, In turn, the more poor decisions I made that led to most of the “mistakes”.
Now, I try to stay present and focus on what I can do to push my life and business forward regardless of the decisions, processes, and timing of others. When I satyr mindful and aware of my thoughts, my actions usually follow in a way that is better for all those around.
The hardest part is the application but that is ok, there are more doors to open and more lessons to learn.
Talk Soon,
Kevin W @LEAP272
Owner-Operator
You have to leap if you want to live